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Internet Porn Addiction – Is it Really Addiction or Not?

Have you found your spouse looking at porn online, or do you have a feeling they look at porn online? Are you starting to think your spouse may have an addiction to porn? If you have caught your spouse looking at online pornography, you may feel hurt, shocked, betrayed, and more. However, before you get too upset, you should determine if it is really addiction or just curiosity. Here are some tips and pointers to help you determine just that.

How Much Time is Your Spouse Spending on the Computer?

If your spouse never spends much time on the computer and you only caught them looking at porn once or twice, the chances are it’s just a case of curiosity that your spouse is experiencing. This is perfectly normal, as many people are curious and look at porn once in a while. However, if your spouse is spending a lot of time on the computer and you notice that they want to be on the computer when they are alone, they may have an addiction to porn.

Many people who are addicted to porn find that they want to be online all the time looking at it. They get online when they are alone, or after everyone else in the house is sleeping. They may also have the urge to pull up porn on the computer at work. Men or women who want to be on the computer all the time looking at porn most likely have some sort of addiction.

Is Your Spouse Irritable, Cranky, or Even Angry When You Mention Porn?

If you ask your spouse about the porn in an innocent way, such as, “I noticed you looking at porn on the computer earlier,” does your spouse get upset? Do they act guilty or angry that you know about them looking at porn? Typically, at first a spouse should act unsure because they aren’t sure how you’re going to take the fact that they were looking at porn. However, if your spouse instead becomes very irritable, this may indicate an addiction to porn.

Does Your Spouse Isolate Himself or Herself and Lose Track of Time on the Computer?

People who have an addiction do not want others to know. Therefore, they will try to hide the condition from you by hiding their porn. If you know your spouse is losing track of time on the computer and hiding their porn, you should be concerned. There is a difference between being addicted to porn and simply having the desire to look once in a while.

Porn addiction, just like any other addiction, is frustrating and difficult for your spouse and you. The first thing you need is for your spouse to admit that he or she is addicted to porn. Then, together the two of you can seek help for the issue and work together to overcome the porn addiction. Using the signs above, determine if your spouse is addicted to porn or if it is just a natural curiosity. Good luck!

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Learn How to Stop Porn Addiction

As most of you will realize there is a great deal of porn floating around the internet these days. You can get your hands on whatever you may wish, from pictures to films to amateur videos uploaded for the world to see. You do not even need to pay for it now, there are plenty of free hardcore sites who’s idea of a filter is to ask the date before you enter.

With porn so easy to come by it is little surprise that addictions are on the increase and no wonder how it is fueled. If you find yourself suffering from addiction, you are tempted 24 hours a day, every day simply by access to the net.

Why not just stop searching for it?

The problem is, many people may want to stop but find it hard, that is after all the definition of an addiction. There are many men who want to stop, their addiction is having negative effects on their lives. It is a lot harder than you may think. These days it is popularly accepted within psychiatric circles that porn addiction is indeed a mental disorder, one that needs treatment in order to fix.

Can you tell if you are a porn addict?

Somebody suffering from porn addiction will be unable to control how much time they find themselves looking at porn, even when it begins to have negative effects in their life. Much like other addictions there are some tell tale signs.

Common signs include:

- Unable to resist looking at porn.

- More than your average excitement before you look at porn.

- High amounts of pleasure as a result of porn, more like you needed it rather than just simply wanted it.

You can expect five of the following signs:

- Overly preoccupied with porn.

- Watching more than is healthy.

- You try to slow the amount of time you find yourself viewing porn but fail.

- The amount of time you spend online is such it disrupts day to day life.

- You find your job, school, social or home life seriously disrupted by viewing porn.

- You overlook prior engagements due to watching porn.

- You realize that you have a problem but can simply do nothing about it.

- You find it takes more and more porn to reach the same levels of pleasure you did before.

- If you are unable to watch porn for whatever reason, you become increasingly aggravated.

Is there a way to stop access to porn on your PC?

If you feel your loved one may be suffering from a porn addiction it is best to approach them and attempt to discuss it. If the internet is their main source of pornography there is a lot you can do. Remove temptation. You do not need to completely remove the computer and internet connection from your house.

If your partner or family member has admitted to a problem and wants help you can come to the agreement to limit their access. You can easily shut out porn sites by activating a porn blocking internet filter. One such effective filter can be found at BestPornFilter.com, the recommended review site on porn filters. This is a quick and simple solution to take you on your first step to overcoming your problem, or helping somebody else overcome theirs.

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Why Porn Fascinates You

Lots of people support porn, they know from inside that porn does harm in their lives, but they don’t oppose porn and they don’t like the people who oppose porn. Why? Why do they support porn?

Because porn gives something to them. Porn satisfies them, Porn relieves them, Porn gives happiness to them. So naturally they support porn, they need the happiness porn gives, for this happiness, they are ready to suffer, whatever damage porn make in their lives, they watch porn again and again.

Porn is the greatest need for them, why?

The answer lies in lot of factors; I discuss the main things here.

  1. Repressed emotions.
  2. Stress in daily life.
  3. Unfulfilled need for affection.
  4. Pessimism and lack of hope

Repressed emotions

To experience life properly, one needs tremendous freedom, with freedom one enjoys, and all of us want to enjoy, nobody wants sorrow.

But in social living, one has to live in certain patterns, and there is no escape from it. In childhood, one has to go to school, as you and I know, many children hate it. In adulthood, one has to go to a job, most adults hate their jobs.

Society compels us to live in certain patterns. We can’t blame society for that, because this is necessary for society to function well (until we figure out a better system). We have to repress ourselves to follow these patterns. Daily we do this. Repression, I am not talking about all people, there are few people who enjoy their work, truly enjoyed their school days etc, but for many, going to work in the morning is not amazingly thrilling, many hate it, they hate it for lot of reasons, but they have to go to work, they do things they don’t like, they repress.

These repressed feelings create tension inside which we may not aware consciously, one has to release this accumulated tension to be free and easy. Many people don’t know the good ways to release it; they haven’t developed necessary skills to release these tensions. To release these tensions, they need a way.

There porn becomes friend. Porn gives great help to release the tension by letting them feel the ‘feel good chemicals’ which is produced in the body while watching porn. Or the sensations female bodies produce in their heads. They find what they needs. Release.

This repressed emotion is the main reason behind bizarre rough porn. The people who repress more tend to like rough and bizarre porn. Seeing someone suffer makes them happy, this is because of the suffering they carry themselves. They want to see more people in suffering which let them feel good of themselves.

Stress in Daily life

As I told earlier, a few enjoy their job, most are compelled. Compelled for for actions in their lives. Compulsion creates stress, and stress creates anger and negative thoughts. Anger and negative thoughts affects their relationship to another. Damages in relationships makes one isolated, isolation blocks the ways of constructive stress releases.

So one moves to destructive ways to release stress. They go to things like drugs and porn.

Usually porn addicts get stressed more because of their underdeveloped social skills to relate with others, relating with others and being in compassion is essential for anybody to effectively release the stress, so lack of social skills multiplies one’s stress levels.

To relieve stress, one is going back to porn.

Unfulfilled need for affection

Mostly porn addicts are the kind of people who don’t posses great skills to attract and keep a girlfriend of their choice and achieve their affection and love. Girls like heroes. Many of us are not heroes. So we don’t get what we needs, affection. This lack of affections creates tension and sorrow.

Here also we depend on porn.

Pessimism and lack of hope

Did you observe pessimists? Observe… if you are a pessimist, then it’s easy. You can observe yourself. Pessimists carry great stress in themselves, because of their lack of trust to anybody or anything; they have to take care of everything themselves. Lot of things in head. Always being in great stress.

Pessimists carry lot more stress in themselves than average man. To release this stress, most depend on porn.

These are the main reasons which make porn fascinating. Understanding the deep reasons behind the need of porn help you to quit porn more effectively.

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